Starting the Conversation about In-home Care
Deciding on In-home care is a family decision with a lot to take into consideration such as, whether or not your loved one is ready or will be happy with such a move as well as the financial decision. Today we will cover the common signs that it is time to start considering in-home care for your loved one as well as how to start that conversation.
Signs it might be time for in-home care
Resistance to leaving the house
Refusal to shower and/or change clothes
Weight loss from failure to cook or eat meals
Forgetting to take medication regularly and as prescribed
Getting confused when asked questions
Isolation from friends and family members
Tips for Having the Conversation
Although the need for in-home care may not be urgent, once you start recognising the need for it, it's good to get the conversation going with your loved one. Don't wait for the need to be vital and your loved one not have the time to think or adapt to the idea. Choose a comfortable time and place to chat with your loved one. Use words that are non threatening and avoid playing the role of a parent.
Realising the need for care can be daunting, being diagnosed with an illness like Parkinson's or Alzheimer's can be even scarier. Any resistance that you encounter is likely due to a fear of losing control more than anything else. Put yourself in your loved ones shoes and decide how you might feel being approached in this situation.
Express concern to your loved one without accusing. "I'm worried about you" rather than " you can't take care of yourself". They are likely to be in denial of their situation, so have some examples ready such as "your medications got mixed up". Remember, the idea is not to embarrass them but to express concern and love.
Be Respectful It will be hard for your elderly loved one to admit that they cannot help themselves anymore. In this situation you do not want to be pushy. Try to make suggestions without coming across as bossy or overly insistent. Although we understand the strains of caring for a loved one on your own, remember that ultimately the decision is up to them.
Ask for Help!
Reach out to others that you know have used or currently use in-home care. Find out if they would be willing to talk about the benefits with your loved one as they have lived through the situation themselves. Bring your loved ones doctor in on the discussion as well as reinforcement and as a n unbiased opinion. Here at Edgemore, we can also help facilitate this conversation with your loved one. We can arrange for a free, at home consultation where we can tell your loved one more about our services and reassure them of the level of care they would be receiving. You can request a caregiver attend the meeting with us so you and your loved one can have a first introduction. We can also arrange for a trial period of a day or a week to see how your loved one settles and if this helps in adapting to the idea of in-home care.